How to deal with a workplace bully

By Sarah Coles Being bullied may seem like the sort of thing you were supposed to leave behind in the playground, but according to the TUC some 3.5 million people say they have been bullied at work, which amounts to 14% of the workforce. Research from the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development shows that … Continue reading

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What Is Attractive In An Abusive Partner?

My cousin (21) has been dating a guy for eight months now. He’s horrible to her. He pushes her around and bosses her like he’s her father, he belittles her, he takes advantage of her trust (like making dates and then blowing her off), he publicly humiliates her and he’s basically just abusive to her (emotionally; as far as I know, he’s never hit her). My cousin complains about this constantly, but refuses to leave him. I once asked her if she’s scared and she said not at all and she could leave him any time she wants. She sounded pretty confident saying all that too. So I asked her why she doesn’t and she says she loves and wants to marry him. So then I asked her why she constantly complains if she loves him so much and she said she wishes he would be nicer, but it’s no big deal and she can put up with it as he doesn’t hit her (I should also mention he almost got her FIRED from her job and kicked out of college).
I’m only 17 and have only had one relationship, so somebody help me. What could possibly be attractive about someone who abuses you? I would run away as fast as possible from such a person, but every time I ask someone a question like this, they say, “You’ll understand when you’re older/an adult.” I’d rather not wait until I’m older in this case.

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Does This Sound Like Workplace Bullying?

I work under a rather abrupt woman who is causing me a lot of anxiety and I have problems focusing at work. She constantly nit-picks and I wish for just one day where she will not criticise me. ‘
For the past 9 months she was supposed to train me up so I could take over some of her work. This never happened and the only time I learnt some stuff was when she had to take time off work to look after her elderly mother. I got stuck into learning her job and was enjoying the challenge greatly, I must admit that I was going very well too. She is back at work to relieve our department manager who is on 4 weeks holiday, my anxiety levels are so high right now… it was so nice without her, I was relaxed and able to focus fully on what I was doing. Today she calls a meeting to see where we are at, she tells me not to continue with the work I had planned over the next few weeks (stuff of hers) and tells me I am to do a less experienced team member’s filing and other menial duties. I am so angry right now, It is also a waste of company resources as I am paid more…
Does this sound like bullying? I am considering having an off the record chat with our HR department but am not really sure it is worthwhile as she will only be around another 4 weeks. However, I am wishing that I get laryngitis or come down really sick so I can take some time off. This isn’t a healthy situation for anyone to be in. What should I do?

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Difficult Horse!!!! Please Help!!!!?

****Sorry this is so long but please read and try to help!!!!
****I rode horses for about 6 months when I was 8 or 9, so I don’t have a lot of experience with horses. I do have some though and I’m not a novice rider, I just don’t have enough experience to know exactly what to do with this mare.
In about October, my cousin brought out a big 15 y.o. chestnut Quarter Horse mare. I know that she knows how to barrel race, which is what I want to do. I rode her for the first time about a month ago, and I only rode her twice. It was kind of a bad 2 rides though. I rode her in a corral with a horse who had been in the pasture with her. They are so buddy sour. I decided that I would get her out alone and try to work with her the other day. My sister rode her a few weeks ago and got bucked off of her because she wouldn’t do what she wanted her to do so my sister pulled her in a circle.Anyways, I got her tacked up with dififculty (raising her head really high when trying to put the bridle on, stepping away from the saddle) and mounted with diffuculty (stepping away, forward, backward, even with my sister holding onto her). My sister led me around on her for a few minutes and she did fine, but when my sister left, I tried to ride by myself and she didn’t listen to ANYTHING I wanted her to do. I called my uncle who trains horses and he said that I have to show her who’s boss, and she should be seperated for 2 weeks. I know that I’m supposed to show her who’s boss and that it will take time to get her where I want her to be, but I need help fast! I really want to show her in the fair in July, and any advice would be AWESOME! Thanks everyone!

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Atheists: Can U Explain Near Death Experience? Don’t Ndes Prove That We Have A Soul & Therefore Afterlife Is?

REAL too??http://www.near-death.com/ http://www.near-death.com/oakford.html http://www.near-death.com/experiences/ev…
“I don’t have any idea whether there’s life after death or not. I’ve been a follower of science all of my life, but I also have a Ph.D. in philosophy, and it really seems to me that the question of life after death is not yet ripe for scientific enquiry because it’s not formulatable in a way that fits into the scientific method. I also think it’s the most important question. If you think of the big questions of existence, this is the biggie.”
The following are some examples of veridical NDEs documented by Moody:
Example 1: An elderly woman had been blind since childhood. But, during her NDE, the woman had regained her sight and she was able to accurately describe the instruments and techniques used during the resuscitation her body. After the woman was revived, she reported the details to her doctor. She was able to tell her doctor who came in and out, what they said, what they wore, what they did, all of which was true. Her doctor then referred the woman to Moody who he knew was doing research at the time on NDEs.
Example 2: One patient told Moody, After it was all over the doctor told me that I had a really bad time, and I said, Yeah, I know.’ He said, Well, how do you know?’ and I said, I can tell you everything that happened.’ He didn’t believe me, so I told him the whole story, from the time I stopped breathing until the time I was kind of coming around. He was really shocked to know that I knew everything that had happened. He didn’t know quite what to say, but he came in several times to ask me different things about it.
Example 3: In another instance a woman with a heart condition was dying at the same time that her sister was in a diabetic coma in another part of the same hospital. The subject reported having a conversation with her sister as both of them hovered near the ceiling watching the medical team work on her body below. When the woman awoke, she told the doctor that her sister had died while her own resuscitation was taking place. The doctor denied it, but when she insisted, he had a nurse check on it. The sister had, in fact, died during the time in question.
Example 4: A dying girl left her body and into another room in the hospital where she found her older sister crying and saying:
“Oh, Kathy, please don’t die, please don’t die.”
The older sister was quite baffled when, later, Kathy told her exactly where she had been and what she had been saying during this time.
“After it was all over, the doctor told me that I had a really bad time, and I said, “Yeah, I know.”
He said, “Well, how do you know?”
And I said, “I can tell you everything that happened.”
He didn’t believe me, so I told him the whole story, from the time I stopped breathing until the time I was kind of coming around. He was really shocked to know that I knew everything that had happened. He didn’t know quite what to say, but he came in several times to ask me different things about it.
When I woke up after the accident, my father was there, and I didn’t even want to know what sort of shape I was in, or how I was, or how the doctors thought I would be. All I wanted to talk about was the experience I had been through. I told my father who had dragged my body out of the building, and even what color clothes that person had on, and how they got me out, and even about all the conversation that had been going on in the area.
And my father said, “Well, yes, these things were true.”
Yet, my body was physically out this whole time, and there was no way I could have seen or heard these things without being outside of my body.

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